Päiväkirja - Doogle1, 12 huhti 21

Just needed to vent, I guess. 

Sadly, sometimes people just don’t think about what they are saying :( 

dont listen to them... just take a step forward and move on... sometimes people not realize when they hurt people with their words... 

You are going in the right direction! Just shake it off and keep getting healthier for you!! You got this!!💪😁 

I'm right there with you brother. ive gained 120lbs in 5 years.  

yeah it sneaks up on you, and sadly we can't just snap our figures and make it go away. but you're setting yourself goals so and now it's time to make it happen. you got it man. 

One day at a time! U know who u are. Stay on your healthy path, stay steady. If u truly know who u are the noise ceases to exist! 

It took my hubby & I 13 yrs. to gain 100 lbs. :(  

judgment of weight is socially acceptable. people would never judge your race or sex but are comfortable saying hurtful things about weight because they feel you choose it. it's amazing how cruel people can be. stay strong and carry on. you only answer to yourself 

Love Debora’s comment & agree! Gotta keep yourself as the #1 priority, no one else.. especially old friends who may not realize a backhanded comment when they speak it. 

I gained over 100 too. I don't want pictures of myself on FB . Because I'm still friends with people I haven't seen for years due to moving and it's embarrassing. They all look basically the same and I've almost doubled my weight. I can't see doing the keto diet, too restricting so I'm counting calories. Time will tell. good luck. 

I have been in the exact same spot. I don't even think people realize what they are saying at all. Maybe they'll lie away and think about it... Lol one can hope. I hadn't gained 100 lbs, but like... 150-170. It came from intense depression, divorce, abusive relationships, failure, medications, a perfect storm of losing who I was. You're in the right place. We're here for you. I'm back 140lbs in the right direction and not sure where the end goal will lie. We can do hard things and we can put ourselves first. You've absolutely got this.  

I'm with you all the way. My start weight of 394 is a bit higher than yours but, right now, my end goal is also higher. Check out my journal and profile. I've got some before pics there. I admire your planned stepwise goals. I only set them one at a time because I find all at once overwhelming. I met my first goal and am pushing toward the 2nd. We can do this, right?  

Thanks everyone for all the responses. I was feeling a bit like everyone was against me, but all of your supportive words have helped lift me out of that spot. I’m feeling optimistic that we can all continue to make progress and meet our goals! Let’s keep moving forward! 

Your goals are admirable, solid and do-able. Forget the stupid remarks. Forgettable! Keep coming here. We are all here for the same reason. Heads-up. Can't save some people from their unkind selves. 🤷🏻‍♀️ 

I agree that these remarks aren't helpful. I don't care what people's intentions are: it doesn't do good and it is harmful in most cases.  

One thing I wish I had done back when I got one or two comments about how I'd put on weight was to retort with an unflattering comment about the person's appearance. I was just too mortified to even say anything though. But I do believe that people who make these kinds of remarks should learn what it feels like when people out of the blue start giving their critique of your appearance and speculating about what you've done wrong. 

"Man, you've got far more wrinkles than last time. I guess you just don't care about yourself enough to rest and eat well." or "What happened to your hair? Bad hairdresser?" It's exactly the same as what they are doing.  

I've always been about 190 and an athlete, when I hit 40 and was in a horrible relationship I quit all my sports and got up to 276, this was only in the past few months, I did Nutrisystem and I am 240 now, I'm striving to get to 190 again but man it's tough, I completely understand when you're around your friends and they see you gain that weight it really stinks, I've moved six years ago nobody that I'm friends with now knows me as a bigger dude but for some reason I feel the need to explain how I used to look, you can do it my friend as well as myself and anybody. I will get back to my comfortable weight again, I've learned dieting and change of Lifestyle eating habits is 99% mental, once you conquer that the rest is much easier 

I'm so sorry. people can be such $@$