I am feeling a bit down and overwhelmed. I've probably mentioned that my daughter is moving 12 hours away soon. Her husband needs to finish his degree. I will miss my daughter and grandsons tremendously.
They were going to move the first week of September, but my SIL needs to start his new job sooner than that, so now they are moving on August 15th. My grandsons turn one and three in September and we were already planning to do their joint party a bit early. Now we have to do it on August 9th.
I haven't seen as much of my daughter and grandsons since they moved in with her in-laws in May. I have babysat a couple times here at my house and finally saw my daughter for the 4th. She is dragging, tired all the time. Packing is exhausting, as is living in a two-story house. They can do almost everything in the downstairs apartment, but all meal preparation takes place upstairs. So, when my daughter comes over here, she depends on me a lot.
I have been tired myself, working more than usual. With my back pain really acting up, it's been challenging to not over-do it. I haven't been able to work out as much as I'd like. When I do, it feels like I'm starting all over again.
I took my sons to a nice lake last Saturday and my daughter joined us. I wore myself out playing with them and helping my daughter.
This morning, I joined my daughter and elder grandson for his last swim lesson. He wasn't really feeling it this morning and I was trying not to be frustrated that I'd gotten up early on my one day to sleep in, just to see him do his lesson.
On the way home from the lesson, my daughter told me that she has been VERY exhausted, nauseous, with diminished appetite. I told her I thought it was the stress of the move. She has felt that way on and off for the last three years, lol.
Well, I went to work and when my shift was over, she called me saying "Mom, I'm dying..." I knew she was exaggerating a bit, but imagine my surprise when she told me she had just returned from seeing the doctor and SHE HAS MONO!!!
With only a little more than three weeks until they move, there is just so much on her plate right now. Now I am conflicted because I have seen her twice in the last 5 days, when she was likely contagious. She is going to need more help than ever now, but I already know how exhausted I get helping her under NORMAL circumstances. And, if I overdo it, aren't I risking compromising my own immune system and possibly coming down with Mono as well?
But, of course, I need to spend time with her and the boys one way or the other as these are the last weeks I'm going to get with them for a long time.
I'm just so sad, tired, and conflicted.
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well which is worse? not helping her and the feeling that brings or helping her and being possibly sick and exhausted after? pick the lesser of the two demons - whichever that may be. You have a plate full as well and while I'm sure your daughter understands that... you don't want to beat yourself up with guilt that you didn't try. is there a medium? can you help with the kids and stay away from her? as long as you don't share drinks or give kisses you will be ok. I have been around many people with it and never gotten it. just don't come in contact with her face lol... I'm sure the doctor told her to stay a bit from the kids that way... there is a way to help without getting sick if you need to.. but if you don't have the energy or might be resentful, perhaps you should just do what you can. from reading this though and other posts, I think if you don't help more and they move, you will regret not seeing them as much as you could when they were here. HUGS!
19 heinä 14 jäseneltä: kristyanne3
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Hang in there Young Lady!!!
We are not burdened with more than we can bear.
Keep a stiff Upper Lip!!!
19 heinä 14 jäseneltä: TAIC69
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Aw I'm sorry. :( Make sure you download a program like facetime so you can still talk to them "face to face".
19 heinä 14 jäseneltä: Instantcrazy
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Thanks, everyone. Yeah, I will probably be helping regardless, but I will keep in mind not sharing drinks or kissing her. Yes, I plan to download Facetime for sure!
19 heinä 14 jäseneltä: gilliansings
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Well mono is a nasty virus that is spread through direct contact with saliva. Sharing silverware, drinks, her sneezing in your face etc. Unfortunately the incubation period is 4-7 weeks, that's the time before symptoms start up... and she was contagious that whole time. If you were going to get it you might already have it, same with her kids and husband. Sorry. If I were you I'd start taking vitamins and drinking water like mad, give you a head start if you do get it. I'm sorry you're feeling so stressed, you can only do what you can do though. And I know I don't want my mom stressing herself out over my problems, I'm sure your daughter feels the same. Rest up and be well ((hugs))
19 heinä 14 jäseneltä: Annabelle3117
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I hope your daughter feels better soon. Hope you don't get sick too. I remember when my oldest daughter moved away for the first time I fell into a deep depression. Then she came back then moved again and had a child. Real hard to handle. She and her family live here now but want to move away again. Oh well.
19 heinä 14 jäseneltä: rockytu
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It is important to spend as much time with them as you can. My youngest daughter is in Mississippi and I miss her terribly. She joined the AF and has been far away most of the time. Just do what you can and enjoy them as much as possible. Just take care of yourself in the process. (((Hugs)))
19 heinä 14 jäseneltä: kattay
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Yolanda, thanks for all the advice on Mono. I'm sure you're right about my daughter not wanting me to stress too much. I will rest and take care of myself as much as possible, while still trying to enjoy my grandkids. Kattay and Rockytu, you are familiar with what I am facing. I am trying to feel grateful for the 4 years of her marriage that she DID live fairly close to us.
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